A change of house or city, regardless of the circumstances, always involves a lot of work and some headaches for families. We are not always prepared for the changes. And if it is a difficult for adults, especially the move can be stressful for children. It can be a problem for the little ones if they are not prepared for the new reality in advance.
Moving With Small Children
The reaction of your child to a change of the home will depend a lot on how old he is. If the child is under 2 or 3 years old, you should not worry about the relocation. At these age, children usually adapt perfectly to the situation and environment. They will feel it, of course, if they notice that their parents are worried. Children feel everything and absorb even the concerns of parents. Children are greatly affected by the attitudes and moods of their parents.
In the case of a change of the house, the children will need their parents to transmit a message of tranquility and security. Explaining to a young child about a move to a new home can become very fun. Use a story, or simulate a story of families changing houses using plasticine, drawings, toys, or whatever you have on hand. Fun and useful information will be assured.
Tips For Moving With Kids Older Than 3 years Old
In the case of older children, from 3 years of age, some psychologists advise parents to follow some steps:
- It must be clearly explained to the child in a positive way why you are moving. And in case the child asks you questions, do not leave him or her without answers.
- It is advisable to familiarize the child with the new house and its surroundings in the best possible way. Look through the pictures, maps, etc. Also, if it’s possible, take your child to visit the new house before the move.
- Describe all the advantages your child will have after moving. Tell him that he or she will make new friends and will have a new beautiful room. You should concentrate only on the benefits that the move will bring.
- Children like novelties. Describe the place where the new house or apartment is located. Encourage the kid by saying that there are parks, lots of green, more space for games, that the place will be closer to the school, and what will happen to you, since when it is true.
- Go ahead to the worries that your son may have. Tell him, for example, that he will not lose his lifelong friends. They will continue to meet whenever the parents can.
- When the move has been made, encourage the child to explore the premises. To discover secret corners, in addition to asking for their help to decorate their new room, and to determine places for their toys.
- The best time for a house move is in the period of school holidays, and a long holiday. If you see that your child has a desire to collaborate, include him or her in the moving process. But if you see that your kid is still not interested in it or that he does not care, let him stay in the house of the relative or a trusted friend during the days of the move. This will keep you away from all the additional stress of the move.
- Invite your child to separate the toys that he wants to take to the new house, and put them in a box. If the child already knows how to write, ask him to put an ID on the boxes.